The emotions felt at weddings are different for men and woman. It is an especially emotional experience for the woman, and maybe most of all for the mother and daughter. Looking for a wedding gown is special moment between mother and daughter as it is a moment of transition. The wedding dress signifies a separation from the old life that has been and the new life that is yet to come. Many brides to be goes through a series of emotions and thoughts, thinking about all their special moments starting with their childhood and leads up to the moment they are experiencing right now, wondering how it all came to be.
As many young women are very close to their parents, and especially the mother, the family plays a big part of the wedding planning. There is daily communication between mother and daughter either face to face or over the phone. This can lead to challenging dynamics between mother and daughter as many mothers want to hold on to their daughters, and maybe they want to hold on to their own youth. Some mothers are so into being their daughters best friend that they dress way younger then what is appropriate for their age, desperately trying to hold on to her youth and to be associated as her daughters best friend, wanting people to think their sisters. And other mothers want to be such a big part of planning the wedding because they just want to plan the wedding they never had. With the decorations, the wedding dress, the photographer and the live music band. Most brides do want their mother to be part of the planning and decision making, as long as she doesn’t go over board. Sometimes a daughter sees her mother opinions and advice outdated.
As most families today don’t have more than three children, unlike in the old times where numbers of children were much higher. Today families are small, which means that the mother have the opportunity to give much more time to focus all her attention on her soon to be married daughter, it also mean that many brides to be gets spoiled and over indulged. Some brides goes through 12 to 15 different wedding dress stores just to find the perfect wedding dress, and the mother of the bride is happy to come along.
Watching a son or a daughter get married is emotional for parents. An American research showed that most parents don’t think that adulthood starts until the age of 26, the reason for this must be that most parents have no clue of when and how they should disengage from their children. But the interesting thing is that while the youth take their own good time growing up reaching adulthood, they are at the same time leaving their childhood more rapidly then ever before. Childhood is over by the age of 11 most parents believe. That means that young woman and young men spend 14 years in limbo.
There is no question about how difficult it is for parents to let go of their young men and young woman to set off on their own journey in life and watch them get married, but that as well as so many other things is just another thing called part of life.